Jordan Harbinger: The Art of Charm, Sex Differences, and Why You Don’t Want the Perfect Body

Jordan Harbinger is a world traveler, lifestyle coach, and the man behind The Art of Charm podcast and blog of the same name.

Jordan and his team of coaches teach men to get and “keep the girl” by overcoming insecurities, building confidence, and challenging old beliefs. What does all this have to do with healthy living? Listen up to find out!

A Few Announcements and Events

We’re on the verge of launching a project I’ve been working on for the last few months. It’s our brand-new online community, The Fat Burning Tribe!

If you’re stuck, have specific questions, or need extra help to reach your fat loss goals, improve your health, and accelerate your results, along with access to some delicious recipe ideas that will have you eat like a King, then the tribe may be just what you need!

We’re talking Q&A opportunities, exclusive coaching sessions, and much more!

Here are some of the questions we will be answering “inside the Tribe”…

  • “What’s the best way to lose the last stubborn 10 pounds around the belly? I feel like I have hit a plateau.”
  • “Do you have any specific tips or tricks on how to eat healthy without spending a small fortune?”
  • “What supplements or diet changes will boost my energy and still allow me to burn fat?”
  • “How can I sustain a healthy, fat-burning lifestyle when I don’t have any extra time for cooking or exercise?”
  • “What are the top 5 fat-burning foods that you recommend for a busy lifestyle?”
  • And so much more!

I’m about to record our first webinar specific tactics about how you can break through your fat loss plateau.

If you’re interested in learning more, please come join the fun at

Also, coming up is PaeloFX, one of America’s largest symposium that promotes the ancestral approach to eating and health. This convention jam-packed with speakers and rockstars like Jonathan Bailor, Dave Asprey, Robb Wolf, Chris Kresser, Mark Sisson, Dr. Terry Wahls, Stefani Ruper, yours truly, and so many more!

So check out PaleoFX conference in Austin, which is taking place this April 11-13, and hopefully I’ll see you there! If you’re attending, make sure to stop by say “hello.” I’d love to meet you.

Today’s Show With Jordan Harbinger

This one might ruffle some feathers.

We talk about body image, sex differences, and are quite transparent about the way that a lot of young single men see the world (and what that means for women). If you’d like to speak your mind, let us know what you think what you think in the comments below. We’d love to hear from you!

By the way, I was also interviewed by Jordan on the Pick Up Podcast, so head on over to his site and listen to my interview. Fun stuff.

On today’s episode, Jordan and I discuss…

  • Why charm, charisma, and confidence are learned skills (and how you can increase them)
  • Surprisingly, how the perfect body often isn’t actually what most people want
  • What women should know about men when it comes to attraction (it’s not what you think!)
  • And much more…

Enjoy the show.



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  1. Jeff LaVoice says:

    Excellent insights into social behaviors. I have been counselling men and women in the area of anger management for eleven years and was impressed with the wisdom of both of you. I will be checking out Jordan’s stuff for sure!

  2. Loved the show! You guys nailed it. Thanks. You also made my co workers wonder what I was listening to that was so funny. Great show!

  3. This show was very aptly timed for me. In the last 3 years I’ve lost 120+ lbs and the shift in identity has been a real challenge at times. Developing confidence as a former 320 pounder has been incredibly trying and this show was packed with useful paradigms to apply to my journey. Attention from the opposite sex makes me uncomfortable still, simply because in the past that attention was rarely positive. It is a process and understanding that I don’t have to be natural is very reassuring! Can’t wait to dig deeper into what Jordan has to offer.


  4. Absolutely loved the show. Again still continuing to broadcast the truth. Really enjoyed the bit about the different male characters and there reactions to people like Abel and Jordan. Would have loved to hear the one-upper attitude, but great podcast!

  5. The 1950s are calling and they want your “charm” back, Jordan.
    So if I understand, a slob who’s rude and overbearing can learn to date “higher quality women” just by being nice while he’s out out at a bar, looking to get laid? Come on Abel, I expect more from you.

  6. Man, this show was awesome. I laughed because I realized that my adventure to be the best I can be has recently progressed to everything in this podcast. I didn’t actually realize why it has been such a relief to take a break from going out with the people I always used to go out with until now and it makes sense. I find it funny that I have been meeting awesome new people going to the bar by myself now. I honestly think that eating healthy also naturally boosts confidence because you just feel better.

  7. I am a big fan of the Fat Burning Man show and listen faithfully to every podcast. It normally features a wealth of enlightenment. Today’s podcast was an exception. Jordan Harbinger’s messages regarding the rules of attraction are extremely superficial and borderline offensive. To suggest that men can get away with a rotund frame and balding head and still score a “high quality” woman, whereas women are most valuable for their youth and fertility, only serves to perpetuate age old patterns of inequality. Furthermore, using this as ammunition against women only serves to trap them in the same oppressive cycle of insecurity and self-doubt. No healthy relationship can be based on this premise. We are an evolving species. As women gain more power in society, the need to trade beauty for protection becomes a thing of the past. In most relationships with an equal power dynamic, I have found that, male or female, people gravitate toward someone of fairly equal intelligence, wit, charm and appearance. Development of one’s personality and strength of character should be encouraged in both men and women.

  8. Loved the interview with Jordan. Very entertaining, very insightful. Especially appreciated last question re: unsupportive family, friends. True enough, I’m getting push back on weight loss ( “mark looks gaunt”), running, and now public speaking. Didn’t realize how negative my social circle was… Anyway, keep up the good work. Cheers!

    • Hey Mark,

      Like you, I’m getting push back on weight loss by unsupportive familiy/friends. I haven’t figured out how to react to it but my guess is that they are just worried.

  9. I was hoping for something controversial or insightful and instead I was bored silly. This sort of high-school-level pop psych is a huge snore. Bring back the science!

  10. Andre Douglas says:

    I have been a long-time fan of the guys over at A.O.C. I am however a newcomer to “the fat burning man” podcast. These two guys are both on the top of their games with great insight and wisdom. In life it should be about bettering yourself and others around you. Both podcast help in those regards. Keep up the great work.

  11. I don’t want to launch into a gender debate because this isn’t the forum for it. If we can become more emotionally intelligent, it’s a win-win, whatever side of the fence you are on.
    I just wanted to say thank you for this podcast and I don’t think there is anything low-brow about discussing relationships and effective communication, all with a sprinkle of humor.
    The most important being the relationship we have with ourselves, partners, friends and family. It really resonated with me about surrounding yourself with positive people who can help you grow. We may temporarily hurt somebody’s feelings but the ultimate price will be your own development.

  12. Jordan has some great insight about social behavior and emotional communication and maturity. However, every single point he made was a gender normative generalization. This kind of caveman-like male courting the weak female without her own agency is harmful. He has the right idea about how people (not men specifically) need to work on confidence and believe in themselves before entering into healthy social relationships, but his delivery of the message and his gender normative thinking needs work. Also, he used “bad body” and “fat body” interchangeably, and uses hurtful words such as “bad” and “huge” to describe overweight people. I cannot even believe someone in the fitness or health community would use these words. If your message and goal is really that you want people to get healthier and take control of their body then that’s great, talk about that. Do not call people “huge” or “bad”, because if you’re shaming them into listening to you or getting healthy, then you’re no better than the magazines or media that parade unrealistically and unhealthy skinny images in front of readers with the titles “secrete pill to burn belly fat!!”.. If you’re going to be vocal in the health community, learn to speak less offensively.

  13. What a great show!! I love the podcast and listen to it every week, but this one had me laughing out loud the whole time! Jordan is spot on with the mentality of girls vs. guys in the bar scene he describes, which was hilarious.

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